I remember hearing this for the first time and it was a profound learning on how pointless being a victim is, (pun intended). Like I was saying the entire notion changed my world view. As a women I had grown up having been taught that at some point, when I accomplished some goal, or reached some unknown point, a knight in shining armor would show up swooping in to take care of me. Frankly I had been waiting all of my life for this false notion to manifest itself until it did…in the form of this wisdom, point a finger at someone and 3 fingers are pointing back at you. I could spend the rest of my life thinking that I was owed something or I could take responsibility for myself and realize that as I worked towards releasing my own gifts I would learn to finally take of myself.
It seems self-evident to say we are walking through the present moment and it is brought to us by our past thinking actions and words. In other words if your life is a mess, shift through your memories and try to catch the originating thought, you know the one that made you the boss, the one in charge, the know it all. The one who didn’t want to take responsibility but was hiding behind antiquated beliefs. Being a victim is an outdated thought we all need to give a rest. As far as I am concerned, the only victims are children and the truly naive. Every other form of victim thinking is allowing weakness to stand in your stead and what kind of creator created a creation that would have to hang its head in an oh woe is me fashion.
Being a victim can be a hidden thought within your own self especially if you have really forceful thinking in certain areas, for example we all think we know what is right in a world where we can name right from wrong. Problem is that every one of us is living life and looking through eyes that are feeling and seeing through many veils of conditioned thinking, “Look what that person is doing, of course, I am the victim” Like my thought that someone “out there” was supposed to take care of me, it took me living in the woods without running water and indoor plumbing to get that if I could take responsibility myself my circumstances would change. And change they did and you can read about it in my book(Shameless plug, Living Words: A Wisdom Yoga Journey Towards Health will be available for purchase in January, yay!) When we take responsibility for our lives miracles can happen.
So as we walk towards the holiday season a time when many people’s less than button can be pushed, holiday party’s…, I don’t have a dress, Will what’s his name get drunk? Family…, who’s going to say the wrong thing? All of us eating too much, drinking too much, talking too much, and then blaming the holidays…or your partner, or your children, or the government, or God… Take responsibility and stop being a victim, maybe a few people around you will do the same, either way, take responsibility! The Devil did not make you do it!
Take charge of your emotional health and do whatever it takes to remain neutral and a calm presence for your friends and family. Know that as you turn your frown upside down especially, while in the company of those you would rather strangle, you are turning the vibrational tide of your life. Even when all the evidence supports your victim theory then let it be the lesson that turns everything around. Start being the person who opens their hand in help rather than the one pointing the finger of blame.
I advocate being the master of your life and domain not being a victim of circumstances. Learn to turn your attention to the laws that run our universe and move with the flow. Your victim days will be far behind you as the river of life moves you towards a more successful experience. A victim wins by becoming a victor