I think people have no idea the power of their negative patterns. You will hear people tell you the same story over and over again with only the names being changed. “She left me, again” Everyone around trying to be supportive because it is the same thing with you, find someone then its “fight, break up then make up, same story different day. Everyone around us can identify where others are stuck but very few people seem to see their own stuck-ness.
Now I am talking about typical human behavior not the kind of irrational behavior that needs supervision and medication. I am talking about the things that hold us back, the things that we won’t readily admit we have the most problem dealing with.
We are swimming in a fog of forgetfulness as far as our own faults and needs to grow are concerned. We will declare our willingness and claim a renewed vigor on our favorite walk of life, slowly losing steam as we realize the real work of change is just that “work”. We do not change because it is a fun activity we change because what we are doing isn’t working anymore and we know it. We have been digging a rut on our life journey following the same circle over and over, claiming each time to do better or better yet pretending you don’t see yourself walking into brick wall as you say “ok, let’s try it one more time”, really one more time!
Yah, one more time, because sometimes its easier to just deal with it than it is to take the steps towards real change.
Because who are we trying to fool. If we are not ready to change there’s not a damn thing that can make us change. Life gets very comfortable even in its stupidness. Especially with our relentless pursuit of entertainment and pleasure to over ride the pain of our unsuccessful lives. We do stupid things, we live unconsciously. And who are you to tells us otherwise?
Sometimes the self loathing we feel towards ourselves causes us to be in denial and while all the evidence points to the fact we are not really making any progress towards our goal we will proclaim victimhood to self-responsibility. Life is hard, yup, check, and sometimes the best teacher you get is the one staring at you in the mirror, you know the one looking at you after you have messed things up, again! We have to be conscious or we will be constantly falling victim to our negative patterns.
Face it, we all have things we need to work on, we ALL do. So do yourself a favor and begin to at least own your stuff. Start to live an examined life. If you are standing on a life path that is experiencing a cascading avalanche of negativity go back through your memories until you find the one that shows you pulling the lever that was holding the avalanche back. We are here to learn and when we don’t do it consciously we will find ourselves being tripped up by our own ignorance and blindness. We want to learn, deep down inside everyone wants to be better, it just gets covered up in ego and fear, and then we forget.
The joy of being human is the free will we have been given to learn the divine spiritual wisdom needed to run our lives. But it does no good at all to have the freedom and wisdom to run our life if we don’t first have control over it. Understanding how you are tripping your self up will give you the ability to see obstacles as they approach rather than dealing with them after the collision. Take stock in your life and if you find yourself trapped repeating a negative pattern, get out of the house of mirrors, clean off the lens of your eyes and face your reality. Start learning your lessons and get back into the driver’s seat of your life.