We hear talk about our comfort zone all the time now.
Look at the definition
a situation where one feels safe or at ease.“the trip is an attempt to take the students out of their comfort zone”
a settled method of working that requires little effort and yields only barely acceptable results.“if you stay within your comfort zone you will never improve”
Funny to me are all the years I desperately wanted to find my comfort zone. I wanted to be comfortable, for once. Even now living alone and being alone so much I still hope to find a situation where I may feel comfortable. For years it was a similar feeling to never feeling safe. Now being alone all of the time just doesn’t feel right. It’s not my comfort zone, where is all of the noise, where are my children?
After all of those years raising a family and tending to the needs of children and teaching students, all of it was a comfort zone of sorts. I knew what needed to do and when I needed to do it. Now not so much! I have to decide what to do and when and what for…
Most of life was the search for comfort zone definition number one, “a situation where one feels safe or at ease” Knowing what you are to do and when to do it, are comfort zones. Knowing where you are supposed to be and maybe even who you are supposed to be would also be comfort zones.
But nothing lasts forever and life is about growth, boom comfort zone blows up and the next life stage begins to construct itself.
Fear strangles people and locks them in comfort zones they really don’t want to be in. Watch a drug intervention show and you will know what I mean. An addict will do anything to stay an addict because there is a comfort zone in addiction and its hell to get out. But after becoming clean the person can’t believe how long they were a prisoner to this self-proclaimed comfort zone of drug addiction.
Comfort zones become dangerous because they set us up for false safety. In life one must keep focus, like the lion searching for food, and the antelope hoping not to become food. They have to keep on their toes and in the animal world they stay on their toes because every one of the animals know they are food for something or someone else. Very little comfort zone in the animal kingdom.
So watch for your comfort zone traps. Habits are a comfort zone trap. We think habits are good but habits are just something you do all of the time, doesn’t make it good. Really, the only good habit is breathing, and as deeply as possible all of the time in order to stay in your head where you need to be, not in your fear driven comfort zone. These are the people with their head in the sand.
Comfort zones are religious views, bigoted behavior, crappy diet, stress junkie, drug addict(food, sex, drugs, rock and roll), it doesn’t matter. When you do anything to distract your self from life or put yourself in a prison of false comfort, it is a rejection of the power of life. It was never meant to be a game of ease, life is a journey and a journey goes up and down and all around and since we don’t know what’s going to happen, we call it a journey. We are on our way somewhere, yay.
So understand that a comfort zone is a state of mind at is best, you are ok just the way you are, be comfortable with that. You are moving forward in better ways, be comfortable with that. You are working hard to make a better life for your family and self, be comfortable with that.
Do not expect life to allow you to stay in your comfort zone. That’s not the job of life!
Leaving your comfort zone is the exercise of living life. Try new things, expose yourself to new thoughts and ides, awaken your creative self, get off your high horse, open your mind, shut your mouth, eat new foods, watch a different show, listen to a different station, try new music , read a different kind of book, go to a different church, spiritual system, climb a hill, move a mountain, sing loud, write often, dance every where all the time.
Shake your self loose from the confines of your rigid fear based living structure, break it wide open and let life in. You will be surprised at what you will find.
This is why I travel, it forces me out of my comfort zone and forces me into life, then I can sit and write and tell you all about it.
Let’s all get out there and live!