Kindness of strangers


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There is no way to tell where a person is from just by looking. If you are in a big city anywhere on the planet it has become harder and harder to see who is who and what language they might speak. Having words of any kind on your shirt doesn’t mean you know what they say. It’s the minute you need help that humanity, class and culture come into play.

Some people will not approach certain people out of fear, they are scary looking, sometimes it is their color, or tattoos, piercings, even their gender. Being a woman needing help can make for an interesting minute as you scan the crowd for what might be a kind stranger, some where you hope.

“Excuse me?” Sometimes they stop, sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they just didn’t get it or hear you, most of the time its the ‘why are you bothering me look’, as they walk by. We are arrogant in our righteousness as we pass someone needing help. Until we need something…

What we need is the kindness of strangers and funny how the more spiritual work you do, you can see the face of the right one to ask. Woe to those who ask the wrong ones!¬†There needs to be more kindness and less arrogance on this planet. Traveling makes me see too much. But it surly doesn’t keep me from helping someone when they need it, or giving directions even in a foreign language.

I watched today as the Air France flight I was on brought a small child traveling by herself from the back of the plane, where her parent was able to afford a seat, to first class, where she could be properly looked after. On their own they brought her up and kept her calm through the flight, she was 5 flying alone. Wouldn’t you like to know that strangers were being kind to your child, afraid and traveling alone?

I watched as an old woman was trying to get water bottles down from a self, she was struggling and I watched a number of young men pass her as I walked quickly towards her suddenly a gentleman jogged up to help. He didn’t even speak her language, just assisted her, smiled and left. Wouldn’t you like to know your mother/grandmother was being aided wherever she was?

In the first class lounge a man couldn’t be bothered to move his bags as a young mother tried to find a seat, in the first class lounge. Another young man began looking at his shoes as a woman carrying a child got on the subway, the old woman got up and gave up her seat. It’s an interesting world.

Being conscious and living consciously is the ability to see every minute what is going on around you and inside of you. You are not reacting to life you are acting life. You are not behind the ball you are in front of the ball. Are you awake? Do you sleep walk through life? If you cannot yet be fully conscious, can you at least be kind?

When we stop offering kindness as a part of our day, what does that say about us? Is it really so much to expect from people? Are we really to busy to be kind in our dealings? Are we really to busy to hold the door? Is it really to hard just to glance behind yourself? Is checking on the elderly such an inconvenience? Is remembering your friend is always alone and asking them for dinner so hard? Kindness goes a long way in to a person’s heart.

I am advocating kindness. Let’s be awake. Start looking around ¬†and help each other out. This world is hard enough as it is. Being spiritual or a regular church goer, a nun or a priest, none of it means anything if you can’t be kind. It is taught that your life will vastly improve simply by giving without getting anything in return and with no one knowing, it’s the way to guarantee God’s eye. Being kind is one way to practice.

Work hard to realize your presence counts, your word matters, and when you see someone in need, DO SOMETHING!

Blessings in spite of things.


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My Dad once told me we never get things fixed in life, wise words. What we can do is realize we are on a journey called life and we are not here to fix ourselves into some kind of perfected set up. There is no; perfect job, place to live, perfect partner, kids, pets, teacher, preacher. Anything that is working right now may change just as you have gotten use to it. Kids first grade teacher a dream, second grade teacher a nightmare. Neighbors when you moved in, awesome, they move out, new ones move in, nightmare. Job is great until new boss, job sucks. It only takes one adjustment to throw your perfected thought into the nearest trashcan.

The list can go on of things that were ok for a while and become a nightmare at some point. It’s a drag for sure, favorite shirt gets a stain, favorite store closes, friends move away, on and on. Looked at now my Dads infernal obsession with Murphy’s law makes sense, ‘anything that can go wrong will’! Of course if you expect something to go wrong with every or even one aspect of your life, believe me it will, Murphy is cool like that.

But we all have heard by now thousands of times, everything is happening just as it will, there are no accidents, there is a purpose to everything. It’s easy to see that when we get hung up on some aspect of our life and start clinging to it that it can be the sign for the universe to step in with your next lesson. Life is about the journey and the climb out of ignorance. A walk we must take if we wish to grow away from the short sided vision we have of life.

You could say in the big picture every difficult thing that happens, every upheaval is meant to better align you with truth. It is meant to open your eyes to the reality of life. We are not here on Planet Earth for the long haul. This is a way station, a school for learning what you need to get where you desired to go as you move through your spiritual rise to greater consciousness. Every upset or set back must be used as a set up for what could be a climb on your ladder of consciousness. Far better to learn and rise than be pushed around by life unsure what you are doing or where you are going.

Either you are in charge of your world paying attention to the signs freely given to us or you are walking in the dark. When we fall prey to hardships and get negative about our circumstances we will find they are happy to oblige us with repeat performances until we get so tired of it we look for the door to change. This is when your spiritual practice becomes the answer. Never get bitter, look for what in your thinking has you trapped because truth is, if it weren’t for being forced to change most people wouldn’t change a thing and there is no growth without change. Look for the blessing in every minute because there is one.

What was once bitter can become sweet!

Your word is you!


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There is a little known fact about us humans moving through life, every thought, word and deed is recorded. There is a mechanism within us that does the recording and after we pass we will review this recording or book of our life. You will see and re-expereince every little thing that has happened to you and how your actions and reactions affected those you interacted with. This makes every singe thing we do and every single thing we say of great importance, more than any outer sign of our vast spiritual nature.

In the Universal Kabbalah we learn of the 7 negative influences that we must overcome in this lifetime. The karma of our parents is 2 of them followed by the environment we grew up in. So nearly half of the negative influences have the greatest impact over our lives and will often stunt any chance we have of true spiritual growth. Most everything about a person is set in childhood and how they act and react the rest of their lives is based on the few short years we live with our family of birth. It can be a loose noose around our necks when we don’t take control of our lives and how we live and how we react to life. We all know people who are stuck in the negative aspect of their childhood.

So no matter how difficult an experience you have had in your life at some point the finger wagging has to stop and the reality that you are in the driver seat of your own life needs to be the foremost thought in your head. No one is doing anything to you, you yourself let things happen, especially after you leave your childhood home. We must be responsible for our own lives, people can aid us but the work is our own. We can be victims of circumstances but there are no victims in life we are all participating whether you are doing it purposefully or not.

The marker of who you are resides in your word. How you say things and the intention behind your words. Know this, you are not fooling anybody when you wag your tongue not to mention the beings who hear you that you cannot see. Every time you open your mouth, shut it first and think, does it really need to be said. Every tweet, Facebook post, every email, and word to the grocer, it all counts. You are your word. You are not seen as a physical body in the spiritual world you are seen as an energy presence and that presence is the color and clarity of your electromagnetic field.

Spiritual students spend time in silence and in meditation in order to raise their vibration seeking spiritual clarity but none of these things will work if your mouth forgets and runs off leaving your spiritual self on your yoga mat. Spirituality is not what you wear, your ability to spout platitudes, it is in the actions you take when no one is looking.

Use your word to life your vibration, it truly is the fastest way to elevate to be in constant practice of elevation of those around you. Life truly is not about you, pause re-read that sentence, Life is about what you do to share, elevate and uplift those around you. So stay calm and live up to your word.

Be a shinning light of grace and goodness in a world in desperate need of spiritual light. Be a light warrior. Be a force of good in your life and everyone around you. Your word can be a weapon, so use it to shoot light in to everyone’s heart.

Hit the delete button and free your mind!


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I have been thinking about the delete button on my computer. I can hit the delete button and everything disappears, way cool. I think we need a delete button in our heads, yes we do! Some people hold on to antiquated beliefs like a dog to a bone when what they need is a delete button to clear their thinking, reassess and change their mind. It’s not easy to convince someone of a new idea or philosophy when frankly convincing is the exact opposite of what we should be doing. If you have to convince someone of what you believe it becomes to me an act of control. I would never want that.

When I believe your idea is no longer relevant, or biased, racist, or sexist and maybe just plain in my book wrong, I really can only share my beliefs with passion, through my actions and leave you to your own devices. Which of course means hitting the delete button in your head, I hope. All of us have stores of memories, ideas, and prejudices, that just need to be deleted. New information is sometimes thought of for a while but deeply held beliefs can have a long staying power. Hit the delete button already.

It’s an under used button for the mind. Ridding yourself of the noise in your head is a good thing. When the delete button is used, you can have a fresh perspective. You can make your beliefs your own, not your fathers, or mothers, or your church. As leaders in our families, or communities, hitting the delete button every once in a while would put us all in a place of receptivity. The world is an ever-changing place, new ideas come with new information but we have to be open to it and frankly most people have cluttered minds.

I think it makes a good point for a spiritual and meditation practice. A once a day remedy for not getting stuck in a mind rut. What was true for you yesterday might not be true tomorrow. My Mom couldn’t eat onions when we were growing up so everything had to have onions removed from it. My grandma would make 2 dishes one with and one with out and since I was her daughter she figured I would have the same issue. And I felt I did until I was married and he fed me onions in my food and I about became an onion addict. I ate onions on everything in everything and I still do. I had to hit the delete button on her mandatory onion band and make up my own mind.

Think on ways you can use a delete button. Do you get mad at your partner over the same issue over and over again, time to delete that thought and try to negotiate another way to get what you want. Resistance is always a delete button issue. Why stay mad and frustrated over something you know will never change? Why waste your breath? There are more important things in life than clothes hitting the hamper and shoes in the door way.

Practicing with the delete button frees your mind. Truth is we can not control anyone they can give us the appearance of control but it just builds resentment. Try hitting the delete button when your server pisses you off, you know it’s a crap job. Try hitting the delete button when driving who cares if you got cut off. Death by drive by shooting because you finally pissed off the wrong driver is a stupid way to die.

You get what I am saying. Hit the delete button every now and again. Free your mind and the rest will follow!