pressing on


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Each day comes with its difficulties and we have the choice to press on. There was a time when pressing on wasn’t a statement but a battle cry,

Nothing can hold me back, I am pressing on no matter what!

I get tired of the ever popular “stay positive” phrase. At times there seems very little realism in such a phrase, there will be times when things will most definitely not be fine. But press on we must.

My son recently told me I taught him that if you didn’t have a security blanket to hold you in life you didn’t sit down, you kept pressing on. When there is no one to save you, you must save yourself. This can be the motivation behind the phrase pressing on.

I am doing it for myself. I am doing it for my family.

When we press on, we declare we are doing it, taking the lead in our life towards change. One step in front of the other, even a timid step is a step, we must keep on taking steps. We must keep pressing on when life gets heavy because we all know that a burden is easier to carry while moving than starting and stoping. Best to get there and set that burden down than trying to lift it up on your back everyday.

Understanding the principle of pressing on means you can’t get lost in failure and retrying is part of the pressing on motto. Don’t let fear stop you from anything you choose to do. Take bold steps towards your goals.

Keep on pressing on!

Ready for growth


It is a tendency of the human to remain stuck in behaviors, endless cycles of why is this happening to me? Without the awareness that doing the same thing and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.

We can say happy new year but do you know many who made it a new year, or will it be the same year played over again. It is hard to change, really hard and the motivation to do it nearly has to be done with a gun to the head, you can’t make me eat that salad I will eat this thick juicy burger, heart attack or not changing habits are nearly as hard as giving up addictions.

It is the same with behaviors, maybe more so. We can be motivated to lose weight or take better care of yourselves for a time, especially after a major health scare or before a reunion or new love. Changing mental behaviors takes an entirely different motivation and this is usually when behavior goes underground. We develop sneakiness so people don’t know what we are up to, we lose our self in lies hiding who we truly are.

I myself, just went through terrible heartache. I’m sorry but there is nothing worse than heartache. You can run from a lot but once the heart gets involved it’s a different ballgame. We will give ourselves away, we will become somebody else, we will lose our dignity giving someone our power or love or money or, or, or. Being in love with the wrong person is a problem.

The games we play with ourselves are the worst ones, the inner lies, the bargaining, all of it, so sad, and truly a loss of power. It’s a great trick of the darker side of life making strong women weak. I know if he could just see me, or hear me, or feel me, or or, or. None of it true if he had wanted you he would be there now! We can’t understand the heart and its nature, it surly wants what it wants and it takes a great bit of work to get the heart to see the way of truth.

The truth is love and being in love is not the problem it’s the why of love. Is it insecurity, fear, self loathing that holds you, is it really love or is it control. Is it love if you get angry because they cannot see you. Then it’s not love. Love and true love is unconditional and unattached. Means we love who we love, we can help it but we can’t make someone love us. And like David Bowie said, we need to learn to love and be loved. It’s not loving someone and loved back by that someone. Love is a big word.

I see where I went wrong in my thinking and I am so grateful for the lesson and glad I was able to stop myself from complete humiliation because a women’s heart is a fickle thing and not controlled will overtake your mind and drive you crazy, making you text (just because), call (because I wanted to hear your voice), write (I was just wondering if you are ok), You get this, same story different year!

Your true love will find you, if it’s your destiny it will happen. If not enjoy the company of the one you are with or learn to be alone. Two halves still don’t make a whole just 2 halves. To grow and mature is to look out your eyes, not through a glass darkly, not through rose colored glasses, but with your clear eyes. See what is really there because if science has taught us anything its that there is more out there than meets the eye.

Once your eyes are open there is a lot to see. When you look around you will see most people are walking through life with their eyes wide shut, not a way to live. The difficulty of the times we live in makes sticking to Divinity and the truth a way to be safe in life. Listen to no one but those who can be trusted (very small list). Open your mind, read a book, make yourself grow in a different way this year. Take the steps to change one thing. Change is hard but not impossible.

I heard a new definition of sin, it’s not using your brain. The greatest gift given, our minds for thinking, for reasoning, for growth, for power, ours to control not to be overrun by someone else and their idea of life. The discerning mind is where it is at. As I realized my issue, after crying a while I pulled my head out of my ass and thought about what I was doing and what it was doing to me.

In times of loneliness and stress we will substitute one comfort for another. We are such creatures of habit and big pleasure seekers. We are not into pain and will do a lot of things to avoid it. As soon as I realized the mistake I went to work to correct it, I am going to practice the idea of unconditional love with non attachment, practice I said, and dedicate to bettering myself so when Mr or Ms Right appears on the horizon I will have my head up to see, not buried in a tissue crying over what I couldn’t have.

So I am ready for growth, Are you?

 

 

Judge much


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Why are people still judging other people? Why aren’t we first learning to understand, be truly informed, exercising a non judgmental non reactionary way of being? Educated action rather than idiotic reaction!

It is often hard to understand other people. Who are they, where do they come, why do they believe the way they do? The word other being a starting point, we consider people ‘other’ from our selves because of the differences and thus the judgement begins. A She says, “He is not me, he does not know me, he wants to take from me, he wants to hurt me,” and the he says, “she is not me, she does not know me, she wants to take from me, she wants to hurt me.” Change the pronouns same story different day.

Maybe no one wants to hurt anyone and everyone would like to just be ok.

We judge the “others” because we think we know, because we are afraid, because we think something bad is going to happen and when it does we know who to blame.

Right now you can’t talk about anything because you will run into judgement everywhere.

Want to save the children, you are letting terrorists into the country

Want to send money, you are funding terrorism

Want to open your doors, you are giving away our resources

People who judge are very righteous in the reason for the judgement. Finger wagging and responsibility avoided, brain shut off from reason.

If you want to be a part of the change you wish to see in the world at least for the next few weeks, then start by limiting your judgements. If you are finger wagging about things going on halfway around the world from you, and the only source of info is tv, get some more info.

Get educated if you want to fly a judgement flag, know what you are talking about and remember beyond anything else,

Judge not lest ye be judged!

 

The end is near


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The end of the year that is…

We are heading into the time of deciding what to plant in our mental garden to make seedlings of things and ideas that will gestate during the winter months for completion in next year’s spring.

So many people want the instantaneous gratification of I think it so it must be so. Now while this will get you results put some effort into it, take a stand, do some work, and you will move in the direction you’re desiring. God willing!

People want to quit their job now because they aren’t satisfied. People want to leave their partners, children, old parents, worn out dogs, we are a throw away society and see little good in working on or for something. But do you want to be left, thrown out when your end is near, when your worthiness is deemed not so much?

You reap what you sow, so if you are steeped in horror, check your recent past, keep going back, the seed of your folly is sitting back there, a moment, a decision, something you did started the chain of events you are living through now.

Lets be honest with ourselves for a moment, really, you know what you are doing, you know why you are doing what you are doing. People who claim, not to know, are manipulating you and themselves. That’s not cool and certainly not the kind of role model we need in todays chaotic world. Start looking in the mirror for your most obvious flaw, the one that gets you every time.

Drunk dialing the ex, driving by your old house, Facebook stalking, crying over a failed relationship, career, blaming the ex, blaming the parents, blaming the government, blaming aliens, consuming jealousy, small mindedness, narrow-mindedness, rigid righteousness, the list goes on, you know your own weaknesses.

So as we draw towards the dark time of the year I have a suggestion, if change is really on your mind. It’s on a lot of people’s mind but working on the personal self is a bigger issue for most and not something people do willingly.

But you can, you can make a list of a certain behavior you wish to work on and little by little with constant forgiveness and vigilance you can make positive change in your life.

Start the work of developing your seed idea and then look for tools to help you get through it. Some ideas

Stop smoking

Eat better

Develop better family relationships,

Make better more uplifting friends

Work towards developing a positive spirit

Stop swearing( I f*&king hate this one)

Find a new teacher, coach, lover, friend

Be a better parent, partner, friend, lover, child, sister, brother,

Be better

Take small steps and do the work you have no idea how empowering it is to put your own will power to work. I swear(hahaha) it will work. Get a calendar of the upcoming winter season and plot your chart, keep track of what you are working on, journal about it.

For once take it seriously. The world is going to get more chaotic and dark, we need to be committed in our drive to be a better person and to be part of the movement towards love and move      away from greed.

So as the end approaches be prepared for a new you in time for spring. Anything is possible you just have to take that first step,

Go and prepare for the end…

comfort zone


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We hear talk about our comfort zone all the time now.

Look at the definition

comfort zone
noun
  1. a situation where one feels safe or at ease.
    “the trip is an attempt to take the students out of their comfort zone”
    • a settled method of working that requires little effort and yields only barely acceptable results.
      “if you stay within your comfort zone you will never improve”

Funny to me are all the years I desperately wanted to find my comfort zone. I wanted to be comfortable, for once. Even now living alone and being alone so much I still hope to find a situation where I may feel comfortable. For years it was a similar feeling to never feeling safe. Now being alone all of the time just doesn’t feel right. It’s not my comfort zone, where is all of the noise, where are my children?

After all of those years raising a family and tending to the needs of children and teaching students, all of it was a comfort zone of sorts. I knew what needed to do and when I needed to do it. Now not so much! I have to decide what to do and when and what for…

Most of life was the search for comfort zone definition number one, “a situation where one feels safe or at ease” Knowing what you are to do and when to do it, are comfort zones. Knowing where you are supposed to be and maybe even who you are supposed to be would also be comfort zones.

But nothing lasts forever and life is about growth, boom comfort zone blows up and the next life stage begins to construct itself.

Fear strangles people and locks them in comfort zones they really don’t want to be in. Watch a drug intervention show and you will know what I mean. An addict will do anything to stay an addict because there is a comfort zone in addiction and its hell to get out. But after becoming clean the person can’t believe how long they were a prisoner to this self-proclaimed comfort zone of drug addiction.

Comfort zones become dangerous because they set us up for false safety. In life one must keep focus, like the lion searching for food, and the antelope hoping not to become food. They have to keep on their toes and in the animal world they stay on their toes because every one of the animals know they are food for something or someone else. Very little comfort zone in the animal kingdom.

So watch for your comfort zone traps. Habits are a comfort zone trap. We think habits are good but habits are just something you do all of the time, doesn’t make it good. Really, the only good habit is breathing, and as deeply as possible all of the time in order to stay in your head where you need to be, not in your fear driven comfort zone. These are the people with their head in the sand.

Comfort zones are religious views, bigoted behavior, crappy diet, stress junkie, drug addict(food, sex, drugs, rock and roll), it doesn’t matter. When you do anything to distract your self from life or put yourself in a prison of false comfort, it is a rejection of the power of life. It was never meant to be a game of ease, life is a journey and a journey goes up and down and all around and since we don’t know what’s going to happen, we call it a journey. We are on our way somewhere, yay.

So understand that a comfort zone is a state of mind at is best, you are ok just the way you are, be comfortable with that. You are moving forward in better ways, be comfortable with that. You are working hard to make a better life for your family and self, be comfortable with that.

Do not expect life to allow you to stay in your comfort zone. That’s not the job of life!

Leaving your comfort zone is the exercise of living life. Try new things, expose yourself to new thoughts and ides, awaken your creative self, get off your high horse, open your mind, shut your mouth, eat new foods, watch a different show, listen to a different station, try new music , read a different kind of book, go to a different church, spiritual system, climb a hill, move a mountain, sing loud, write often, dance every where all the time.

Shake your self loose from the confines of your rigid fear based living structure, break it wide open and let life in. You will be surprised at what you will find.

This is why I travel, it forces me out of my comfort zone and forces me into life, then I can sit and write and tell you all about it.

Let’s all get out there and live!

fit in, don’t speak, watch what you say, or…


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A marina in Zurich or a boat parking lot. All we see are different boats near each other, no one boat stands out. All of them are various examples of the word boat. I feel the same about car parking lots, a bunch of cars together no one car stands out. Just like a crowd of people, bunches of people hanging around each other, no one person stands out.

Different are the fancy. The fancy boats are hanging with the other fancy boats, and the fancy cars are valet-ed away from everybody else’s not so fancy car. Same as all the Vip lounges across the world over, the special fancy people do not like to mingle with the not so special fancy people. The mingling of the people leads to the mind field of Facebook commentators, a sea of opinionated people hiding among everyone. They like to mingle online everywhere with everyone, just sitting on their computer with their spoon of terror ready to stir the pot.

Those who hide behind the skirts of everyone’s computer screen are stalking us all. Punishing someone for spelling wrong, not getting the joke, wearing the wrong clothes, weighing too much or not enough, they sit in judgement of everything we do or say. They make fun of this group, they expose that group, nothing is sacred, nothing is off-limits. If they need a picture they will steal one, if they need a different identity they take one. The world of the internet is their oyster and we are the pried open shells.

There are those who still believe that change occurs because we want it to or it should because its right, just don’t understand the laws put in place to run the universe. Fairness is not part of the laws. Every cause begets a result, as above so below, everything is vibrating, it all about the laws. When we work with the laws things work when we work outside of the laws we are getting our asses kicked and we may not even know why.

They say there is safety in numbers but that’s only if you want to be a sheep or part of any herd. Not me baby, lone wolf. I will get my opinions from my intelligence and not because joe blow said so.

We must put our conscious mind to work but that can only happen when we think for ourselves and not turn into robots spouting someone else’s word. We must use the sword of our tongue in a righteous way or that same forked tongue sword is coming after us. The world is a mind field of the ignorant and you will learn to either to keep your head down so as not to be noticed or you will become a leader. Powerful in your thought word and deed.

Funny how after all this time, all the advantage that the internet has offered people still struggle with what is the truth. You can only find the truth through your heart. You can read words you can hear words but only your heart will tell you if those words are truth. Divinity is simplicity, it’s either the truth or it is not.

The need to dominate is a real threat to humanity unless you engage your own inner master and access the strength lying dormant within most of us. Jesus wasn’t called a shepherd for no reason, humanity has constantly needed the guidance of a shepherd. But with so many sheep a few more shepherds are in order but more importantly I think is the wisdom of the world teacher who said, “these things and more will you do in the name of the father who sent me…” I think he meant humanity would one day remember that God made us in the image of the creator not so we could be victims of life but victors, co-creators of our own reality.

That’s a powerful statement

life lessons


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I think people have no idea the power of their negative patterns. You will hear people tell you the same story over and over again with only the names being changed. “She left me, again” Everyone around trying to be supportive because it is the same thing with you, find someone then its “fight, break up then make up, same story different day. Everyone around us can identify where others are stuck but very few people seem to see their own stuck-ness.

Now I am talking about typical human behavior not the kind of irrational behavior that needs supervision and medication. I am talking about the things that hold us back, the things that we won’t readily admit we have the most problem dealing with.

We are swimming in a fog of forgetfulness as far as our own faults and needs to grow are concerned. We will declare our willingness and claim a renewed vigor on our favorite walk of life, slowly losing steam as we realize the real work of change is just that “work”. We do not change because it is a fun activity we change because what we are doing isn’t working anymore and we know it. We have been digging a rut on our life journey following the same circle over and over, claiming each time to do better or better yet pretending you don’t see yourself walking into brick wall as you say “ok, let’s try it one more time”, really one more time!

Yah, one more time, because sometimes its easier to just deal with it than it is to take the steps towards real change.

Because who are we trying to fool. If we are not ready to change there’s not a damn thing that can make us change. Life gets very comfortable even in its stupidness. Especially with our relentless pursuit of entertainment and pleasure to over ride the pain of our unsuccessful lives. We do stupid things, we live unconsciously. And who are you to tells us otherwise?

Sometimes the self loathing we feel towards ourselves causes us to be in denial and while all the evidence points to the fact we are not really making any progress towards our goal we will proclaim victimhood to self-responsibility. Life is hard, yup, check, and sometimes the best teacher you get is the one staring at you in the mirror, you know the one looking at you after you have messed things up, again! We have to be conscious or we will be constantly falling victim to our negative patterns.

Face it, we all have things we need to work on, we ALL do. So do yourself a favor and begin to at least own your stuff. Start to live an examined life. If you are standing on a life path that is experiencing a cascading avalanche of negativity go back through your memories until you find the one that shows you  pulling the lever that was holding the avalanche back. We are here to learn and when we don’t do it consciously we will find ourselves being tripped up by our own ignorance and blindness. We want to learn, deep down inside everyone wants to be better, it just gets covered up in ego and fear, and then we forget.

The joy of being human is the free will we have been given to learn the divine spiritual wisdom needed to run our lives. But it does no good at all to have the freedom and wisdom to run our life if we don’t first have control over it. Understanding how you are tripping your self up will give you the ability to see obstacles as they approach rather than dealing with them after the collision. Take stock in your life and if you find yourself trapped repeating a negative pattern, get out of the house of mirrors, clean off the lens of your eyes and face your reality. Start learning your lessons and get back into the driver’s seat of your life.